Why Do Nude Photographers Get More Action?
A recent British study has found that professional creative types (whether male or female) have on average twice as many sexual partners as their non-artist peers. It’s not just down to the fact that more artists see naked women, because this evidence applies across all types of art. So why are artists, and photographers in particular, so damn sexy?
Well of course artists are perceived as being passionate and dedicated to their craft, so women naturally assume they will be the same in the sack. Artists are deemed to have complicated and deep personalities. Accountants like me are not. Plus artists are often more open about their sexuality - their mind works in different ways, and they are more psychologically open to new ideas and are trained to explore new artistic directions, in and out of bed. Simply put, they are not as conservative as your average stockbroker.
Photographers (especially those who shoot nudes) are also experienced at handling women. They study women all the time. Lots of them. Usually naked. When a woman takes off her clothes, to some extent she removes her psychological barriers. Her psyche is laid bare. She must trust the photographer implicitly, and he must not abuse that trust, either at the time of the shoot, or in their dealings afterwards. Thus, it follows that the photographer has to be a nice guy.
Not all of them are nice, of course, and I have hard of photographers abusing that level of trust pretty badly. Let’s face it – some people are creeps. But hopefully those are the exceptions to the rule. Call me naïve, but on the whole, I do believe that the majority of photographers are worthy of long term trust, and most of them are kind and insightful people who treat their subjects with the greatest respect. They don’t openly judge a woman, they don’t judge sexuality, and they are open to all types of personalities who model for them. And because they are such good people, the best photographers are universally adored by many of their models.
There is also the very important point that the more experienced photographers know how women think. They have to. People skills, and putting a woman at ease is part of their job. How else can they get the best from their subject? A photographer has to understand the basic psychology of men and women, plus he has to be able to know how to use that knowledge to enhance his art. So it is fair to say that he has to know himself pretty well too. He must be self-confident, polite, non-judgmental, humorous, and if he is slightly flirtatious whilst maintaining an air of respect and complete control, then this will dramatically improve the emotional response of his model.
So you’ll notice that I have purely coincidentally described the qualities of most women’s ideal man. Study the wish list of most women, and you’ll find that they are looking for strong, self assured, even slightly arrogant men, who can make them laugh, make them feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, make them feel unique and wonderful. No wonder many women find nude photographers irresistible. Of course it helps if he is devastatingly good looking (has anyone actually seen that photo of James Graham in his super-fashionable designer black coat and NOT gone completely weak at the knees? I rest my case.)
However good looks are not essential. In fact I think they can actually count negatively towards the photographer’s sex appeal. Guys who are not what is perceived as “traditionally handsome” will always be more interesting to me, because they are often more modest, take themselves less seriously and are bit of an enigma. Mysteries are the ultimate hook to get the chicks interested, believe me. We wanna see what makes you chaps tick.
But ultimately your physical appearance and especially your age is irrelevant to your sex appeal. It is knowing yourself and being able to say who you are that is the real turn-on. Fortunately for photographers, most “ordinary” non-creative types don’t actually know themselves. Hence when women come across a powerful man - powerful because he has self knowledge and is in touch with his emotions - they are in awe of him, and they fall for him big time.
The power of knowing yourself is the ultimate aphrodisiac. It gives you power over your models, power over women and power over your art.
More enlightened photographers make better artists. And they’re better in bed too.
(Disclaimer: The author admits to twenty years of romantic bias regarding that last point.)
And to those photographers who say, “This is twaddle! I’m not getting any action,” my reply is a) maybe you prefer quality over quantity (which is wonderful of course, but it’s your choice so stop complaining) or b) Maybe you’re just shy, and you don’t realise how sexy you are?!
Well of course artists are perceived as being passionate and dedicated to their craft, so women naturally assume they will be the same in the sack. Artists are deemed to have complicated and deep personalities. Accountants like me are not. Plus artists are often more open about their sexuality - their mind works in different ways, and they are more psychologically open to new ideas and are trained to explore new artistic directions, in and out of bed. Simply put, they are not as conservative as your average stockbroker.
Photographers (especially those who shoot nudes) are also experienced at handling women. They study women all the time. Lots of them. Usually naked. When a woman takes off her clothes, to some extent she removes her psychological barriers. Her psyche is laid bare. She must trust the photographer implicitly, and he must not abuse that trust, either at the time of the shoot, or in their dealings afterwards. Thus, it follows that the photographer has to be a nice guy.
Not all of them are nice, of course, and I have hard of photographers abusing that level of trust pretty badly. Let’s face it – some people are creeps. But hopefully those are the exceptions to the rule. Call me naïve, but on the whole, I do believe that the majority of photographers are worthy of long term trust, and most of them are kind and insightful people who treat their subjects with the greatest respect. They don’t openly judge a woman, they don’t judge sexuality, and they are open to all types of personalities who model for them. And because they are such good people, the best photographers are universally adored by many of their models.
There is also the very important point that the more experienced photographers know how women think. They have to. People skills, and putting a woman at ease is part of their job. How else can they get the best from their subject? A photographer has to understand the basic psychology of men and women, plus he has to be able to know how to use that knowledge to enhance his art. So it is fair to say that he has to know himself pretty well too. He must be self-confident, polite, non-judgmental, humorous, and if he is slightly flirtatious whilst maintaining an air of respect and complete control, then this will dramatically improve the emotional response of his model.
So you’ll notice that I have purely coincidentally described the qualities of most women’s ideal man. Study the wish list of most women, and you’ll find that they are looking for strong, self assured, even slightly arrogant men, who can make them laugh, make them feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, make them feel unique and wonderful. No wonder many women find nude photographers irresistible. Of course it helps if he is devastatingly good looking (has anyone actually seen that photo of James Graham in his super-fashionable designer black coat and NOT gone completely weak at the knees? I rest my case.)
However good looks are not essential. In fact I think they can actually count negatively towards the photographer’s sex appeal. Guys who are not what is perceived as “traditionally handsome” will always be more interesting to me, because they are often more modest, take themselves less seriously and are bit of an enigma. Mysteries are the ultimate hook to get the chicks interested, believe me. We wanna see what makes you chaps tick.
But ultimately your physical appearance and especially your age is irrelevant to your sex appeal. It is knowing yourself and being able to say who you are that is the real turn-on. Fortunately for photographers, most “ordinary” non-creative types don’t actually know themselves. Hence when women come across a powerful man - powerful because he has self knowledge and is in touch with his emotions - they are in awe of him, and they fall for him big time.
The power of knowing yourself is the ultimate aphrodisiac. It gives you power over your models, power over women and power over your art.
More enlightened photographers make better artists. And they’re better in bed too.
(Disclaimer: The author admits to twenty years of romantic bias regarding that last point.)
And to those photographers who say, “This is twaddle! I’m not getting any action,” my reply is a) maybe you prefer quality over quantity (which is wonderful of course, but it’s your choice so stop complaining) or b) Maybe you’re just shy, and you don’t realise how sexy you are?!
Labels: Christmas, Clayre McKinnen, Relationships


13 Comments:
I have to agree..I go weak in the knees everytime I see James Graham as well.
bt
I guess I'm one of those anomolies, Lin - the nice guy who doesn't get any action. Just my luck that the one woman who finds me irresistable lives on the other side of the ocean and is already married, to boot! (And is it a coincidence that she has never even met me???)
So happy you think so... ;)
And some have this power but find the demon hard to handle.
example - Bob Carlos Clarke
I have to say James doesn't do anything for me, but I'd get down on my knees for those pair of stockings next to him - anywhere - any time.LOL
I like your Santa's helper. I thought of the Bob Seeger line from Night Moves "She was a dark haired beauty with big dark eyes and points all her own set way up high".
D.L. Wood
I'm completely with you on the power of knowing one self. It is sexy for sure.
I also think self confidence, intelligence, modesty, kindness and a good sense of humor go a long way in a man.
And I am not at all surprised by James' popularity, as I think he possesses all the traits listed above. Sexy for sure.
By the way, Dave Rudin is cute too!
Hands off Mr Rudin...he's mine! All mine!
(So Dave...how does it feel to have the chix fighting over you?!)
Well, Lin, it's something that has certainly never happened before. (Come to think of it, I don't think there's ever been even one chick who was fighting over me!) Next thing, Iris will be looking at me the way Daisy eyes Onslow and you'll be writing to me notes that say things like "Hello, sexy knickers."
I just wonder what your two husbands will think. (Always something getting in the way. Typical. Absolutely typical.)
By the way, happy holidays and happy new year!
I don't know. For someone as young and naive as myself, all this sexual power over women sounds pretty scary.
Can't say that I've ever found a male photographer to be attractive. I can say that they are some of the coolest people I've ever met, though. I've always loved being around creative "artist" types.
If I was into guys I'd probably be into photographer guys. I'd probably marry one. It worked for Apnea :).
I have had women I photographed come back to me later to say how surprised they were that I didnt take advantage of the signals they were throwing at me during the shoot..
I am often clueless when I am focused on what I am doing and have seen more than my share of nudity so often I am letting all the "signals" pass me by while I am trying to get the lighting correct..
But it is often flattering to hear them say it, albeit after the fact.. LOL
This post is interesting in light of the NEXT post, though, isn't it?
Anonymous, my post was written well before armageddon erupted in the modelling world, and I posted before I knew what topics others had written on their own blogs.
Thus, to my mind, there is no connection between the two.
The negative actions of one or two individual photographers should not be used as a measure of all of them.
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